Look, I’m not an expert on anything, but if you feel strongly about someone you should tell them. I used to never tell anyone, hoping they’d understand the deep affection hidden behind the layers of cynicism; and of course as a love-starved abuse victim, I knew how intense my affection was and my desire for another human being was embarrassing in my view. They never got it and eventually everyone left.
until I took control of it, I never got anywhere. Even now, years later, I’ll never tell her everything. Too much to say, no way to say it.